Becoming Me

Becoming Me · June 24, 2025

I spent my childhood in a garden that never quite bloomed. At least, not for me. The soil looked good from the outside—neighbors admired the tidy rows, the painted fence, the illusion of order. But beneath that surface, the ground was selective. It only fed certain seeds. The ones that grew straight. Quiet. Predictable. I was wild lavender in a rose garden—pretty, maybe, but not what they planted. I watered myself with approval. I bent toward the light of “Look what I did!” hoping that...

Becoming Me · June 16, 2025

Let me start by saying this loud and clear: I’m not judging. Not even a little bit. I sit with my own demons, too. Some days they sit a little too close. But I’ve got to say something, because it’s been burning a hole in my chest for a while now. Why is it that someone can get out of jail, say they’re sober, and then spend every weekend—or let’s be honest, every day—drunk off their ass? How did we start treating alcohol like it’s the exception to addiction? You didn’t heal, my...

Becoming Me · May 24, 2025

Let’s get one thing straight: strength isn’t loud. It doesn’t always come in the form of a title, a bank account, or a raised voice. True strength? It’s quiet. It’s calm. It’s resilient. Strength is choosing not to hate, even when hate might be easier. It’s walking away without the need for revenge. It’s feeling all the pain—but refusing to pass it on to someone else. For so long, I believed strength looked like power, success, and independence. And while those can be parts of...

Becoming Me · May 13, 2025

Let’s just say it: “Crazy” is the word people throw around when they don’t want to deal with reality. “She’s acting crazy.” “He went crazy on me.” “You’re being crazy right now.” But what does that even mean? Spoiler alert: “Crazy” has no actual meaning. It’s not a diagnosis. It’s not a personality trait. It’s not even helpful. It’s just a vague, overused buzzword that usually shows up when someone is feeling uncomfortable, confronted, or exposed. Here’s...

Becoming Me · April 24, 2025

We’ve all been there: a poorly worded email, a misunderstood text, or a tone-deaf comment that leaves others hurt or confused. Communication blunders are inevitable, but what separates amateurs from pros is how they repair the damage. Whether you’ve sent the wrong message, overlooked a crucial detail, or unintentionally offended someone, here’s your step-by-step guide to fixing communication mishaps with grace and confidence. Step 1: Acknowledge the Mistake Quickly Time is of the essence....

Becoming Me · February 06, 2025

You know that feeling when your kindness feels more like a curse than a blessing? Yeah, let's talk about that. Last week, I found myself sitting in my car, hands gripping the steering wheel, wondering for the millionth time why I couldn't just say "no" to a coworker who, once again, dumped their work on me. Sound familiar? Here's the thing about being nice – it's exhausting. Not the actual act of kindness itself, but the way some people treat it like an all-you-can-eat buffet of your time,...

Becoming Me · February 03, 2025

There's a peculiar frustration in outgrowing your old self only to p transformed, evolved, and grown - yet some people insist on seeing only the shell you left behind. Change is hard work. It's late nights wrestling with old habits, mornings facing down familiar demons, and countless moments of choosing a position to different paths than the ones you used to walk. Maybe you've transformed from being selfish to finding joy in serving others. Perhaps you've pushed past your comfort zone,...

Becoming Me · February 02, 2025

You know that moment when you're having dinner with family, and everyone's heads are bowed? No, not in prayer – they're all staring at their phones. I caught myself doing this the other day, scrolling mindlessly through Instagram while a friend of mine was telling me about a work project that was a huge deal for her. That's when it hit me: We've become willing prisoners of our own devices. Remember when leaving work meant actually leaving work? Now, our bosses casually slide into our DMs at 9...

Becoming Me · February 01, 2025

Ugh, I'm doing it again. Here I am, writing about procrastination when I should've started this blog post three days ago. But hey, at least I'm not alone – and chances are, you've been there too. Let's get real for a minute. We all know that gut-wrenching feeling of watching Netflix while our to-do list glares at us from across the room. But why do we do this to ourselves? As someone who's mastered the art of "I'll do it tomorrow," I've done some digging into this frustrating habit. First...

Becoming Me · January 29, 2025

When Grown-Ups Go Back to Kindergarten: A Guide to Adult Tantrums Let's talk about that moment when a perfectly normal adult conversation suddenly turns into a scene from a preschool playground. You know exactly what I'm talking about - when Karen from accounting hits you with a "per my last email" and suddenly you're contemplating whether to respond with a passive-aggressive gif or go full scorched-earth policy. Here's the thing: we're all walking around pretending to be mature adults who have...